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I've been considering getting fat for a while now, but especially more recently. However, I'm definitely concerned about what my friends and family might think. Some of my closest friends have been pretty fat until recently when they've lost a decent bit of weight. (For context: One friend is 6' 2" and went from a high of 270 lbs to 208 lbs or so currently and the other friend, who's 5' 6", went from a high of 220 lbs to around 170ish.) Both of them know I like bigger women, but they don't know about my interest in potentially gaining myself. They both talk to me a lot about their weight loss journeys and how they've changed their diets and their exercise routines. One of the friends even tells me that his goal is to look like me (how I look currently) and it makes me feel a bit guilty about wanting to get fat (I have his goal weight body, but I want to "destroy it" by potentially getting bigger than his starting weight from before his weight loss). I'm a bit worried about what my friends will think if I gain.
I'm really close friends with them so a part of me wants to tell them beforehand about what I'm thinking about doing, but at the same time I'm worried about what they'll think. I was wondering if anyone had any advice for how to approach this?
I've been considering getting fat for a while now, but especially more recently. However, I'm definitely concerned about what my friends and family might think. Some of my closest friends have been pretty fat until recently when they've lost a decent bit of weight. (For context: One friend is 6' 2" and went from a high of 270 lbs to 208 lbs or so currently and the other friend, who's 5' 6", went from a high of 220 lbs to around 170ish.) Both of them know I like bigger women, but they don't know about my interest in potentially gaining myself. They both talk to me a lot about their weight loss journeys and how they've changed their diets and their exercise routines. One of the friends even tells me that his goal is to look like me (how I look currently) and it makes me feel a bit guilty about wanting to get fat (I have his goal weight body, but I want to "destroy it" by potentially getting bigger than his starting weight from before his weight loss). I'm a bit worried about what my friends will think if I gain.
I'm really close friends with them so a part of me wants to tell them beforehand about what I'm thinking about doing, but at the same time I'm worried about what they'll think. I was wondering if anyone had any advice for how to approach this?
Real Talk, if you're worried about friends/family reactions you're not ready. They may force food on you vs throwing it out resulting in gains, though they may want you to walk and do more with them as well. I wouldn't make any revelations unless you want to be accused of making/keeping them fat when you decide to eat differently around or away from them. Let it play out as time will decide how things go overall.
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